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It was a Sunday afternoon; we all were in resting mood at that time the phone rang. Dad picked up the phone; he talked to somebody for sometime and kept the phone. After that he announced, “ Mahesh’s family is ok with Aastha, they have accepted our proposal”.
Actually I was suppose to experience the burst of joy by this news, but frankly I did not feel any emotions at that moment. About the alliance, it was just like any other higher middle class family. Mahesh was ordinary kind of guy, only son and look wise so so. Even I did not expect Shahrukh Khan too. Only good thing was he was a project leader in a well know MNC in Mumbai. Even I was working may not be in a very high profile company like him. What about his nature? Frankly speaking I just met him for half an hour, I could not say anything about him. And it is total arrange marriage you cannot expect to know more.
Well soon after this , we all went to Pune to Mahesh place to fix marriage date and also for engagement. The engagement ceremony was small and fine. Now I was also feeling happy about all these things. But still so many questions were there on my mind.‘Everything will be fine “ I told my self.
After this we started meeting every weekend. Sometimes I used to go to Pune or he used to come to Mumbai. One weekend when I was in his place, his mother asked me
“ So yesterday you people discussed about honeymoon? “ I was so embarrassed and for a moment I was not able to think for an answer. Having a close relation with mother is good thing but cross verifying these things without bothering what the other person will feel was a awful thing. The environment where I was brought was not doubt closely knit but we all respected each other’s privacy.
Next weekend Mahesh was in Pune. We arranged a meet with him because my best friend wanted to meet him. So we met in a hotel. After initial introduction when it came to place the order, Mahesh said, “Mom has given lunch box, you people please order for yourself, I will have lunch box.”
I:”You can take it back home. One day you can eat with us.”
Mahesh: “ No mom will feel bad and she will scold me “
I: “Ok then we will order the dishes and also we all will share your lunch “
I could not offer a better solution than this. Finally we were done with this issue. When it came to paying the bill, I was waiting that he will pay it. But he did not seem to be bothered so I paid it off. I was totally upset by his behavior but then I kept on telling my self he ay a nice person give him some time to prove.
After that It was my turn to visit his place. I was with my would be MIL. She asked me “Can you cook? “ I said, “I have never managed to cook but I am learning now”
MIL:”Oh my Mahesh does not like anything other than what I cook.”
I just kept quite. After that she showed me some snaps.
MIL: “ My Mahesh got lots of offers from so many high society girls. Still the offers are pouring. See this girl she works with Infosys. They are still forcing us”
I said calmly: “I think you should inform them now that he engaged now and you people are not looking for any more alliances.”
MIL:”Yeah but you know; despite of being engaged, my Mahesh does not look happy at all”.I was helpless, did not know what to say. I kept quite and came away.
One week after this , there was no call, no mail from them. One fine day they called and said “ We don’t think Aastha and Mahesh make a good pair. And Aastha has already insulted Mahesh ‘s mother. If she is behaving like this now only we do not know how the things will be in future. So we think we should call off this engagement. So we are returning the engagement ring given by you. Even our son is not happy about this relationship. So it is better to part our ways now itself before it is too late”.
Don’t know whether I should be happy or sad. But my parents collapsed. Even then everybody was trying to be normal with me. Everybody hide their tears and tried to give me hopes. My brain says you should not cry for something that never existed. But the hurt was too deep to recover.